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Feature Article:
Preoccupation
and Judgment - Conditions
to be Aware of
When Trying to Produce
Successful Communication.
Is this what you look like
when you encounter a situation where the communication just
does not work?
We
all have lots of reasons why communication is not
successful. Many times it has to do with what we "think" of
the other person:
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Their opinions are just
plain dumb
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Their information and data
does not make sense
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They have an accent
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They are too old, too
young, too tall, too...something
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They obviously did not go
to the same college as you and can't possibly be
knowledgeable
Our "thoughts" i.e. our
judgments and preoccupations are the top two reasons why we
don't clearly, easily and adeptly communicate to create
successful results.
You have a meeting
scheduled at 9:00am with the new sales rep that everyone is
talking about. She shows up at 9:10am breathless for your
meeting. Your first impression of this new sales rep is:
disorganized and disrespectful because she is late. You are
irritated because the story in the office is that the
recruiting retainer to hire this gal was the most the
company had ever paid.
Guess what, you are
completely preoccupied and are expressing judgments that may
not even be true.
She encountered a traffic
accident on the way to the where people were badly hurt and
she stopped to help to administer CPR. During the rush of
the situation, she lost her cell phone so she could not call
to say she would be late. It was a miracle she made it at
all. In fact, she was preoccupied while assisting at
the accident scene with the thought of calling you so that
you would be apprised of the situation and know that the
meeting with was important to her.
So which example is the
truth? If you are preoccupied and in judgment, you might
miss creating a relationship with this new sales rep that is
key to building profits and turning the high level client
process into a successful venture.
These situations happen
thousands of times a day in our busy world and they can
contribute to wrong information. We form opinions of people
and situations without getting the gist of what is actually
taking place.
You come to each situation
as a whole human with lots of history. This history
shapes who we are, how we operate and what is "right". It
could be you were born in NYC to immigrant parents who
struggled to build a good life. Then you hire a 30 year
old intern for a key project who was born to affluent, well
traveled and educated parents with a solid financial
portfolio. In this scenario we are dealing with differences
in:
My point is that we all
have opinions, judgments and are preoccupied. Some serve us
and some do not.
Understanding that your
preoccupations and judgment are natural is to have your
first step in being aware that you have options on what you
think and how you judge.
Anyone who frustrates you
is a perfect messenger for what might an excellent
opportunity to learn something new instead of dismiss what
you "think" you see in them.
In getting back to the new
sales rep, what if you were able to start your meeting with
her by saying: "Great to meet you. You seem rushed, is
there anything I can do to help you get ready for our
meeting?"
You would create immediate
rapport, help her settle in, get the story of what had
happened and probably form a respect for her contribution to
the people in the accident.
A very different beginning
to a new relationship with a new key member of your
organization.
Success vs.
judgment/preoccupation:
If you are frustrated, you
are preoccupied. If you are angry, you are judging and
probably defending yourself. If you are annoyed, you are
not listening. If you are thinking negative thoughts about
someone, you are not in rapport.
How do you move out of
preoccupation and judgment? How do you get back to
being in rapport? Take a deep breath and listen as if what
they are saying or doing is really important to you.
Just this very simple
action will drastically change the quality of your
communication and relationships. You will change on a not
so subtle level how you relate with people and situations.
I guarantee it will also decrease the stress of your
interactions with others.
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